You know it is over. Your spouse agrees and it seems like you may just get out of this marriage in a fair and cordial manner. Couples can split amicably. It happens. But if you are one of the millions of women out there who are about to embark on a nasty divorce; you have got to find a good attorney. It is a must. It may actually be the most important thing you do to ensure a fair end to your marriage.
How do you find a good attorney? How much will it cost? Who should I pick? The first thing you should do is ask around. If you have any divorced friends and you know their divorce was fair, just ask them who they used. If that is not possible, do a search online for local divorce attorneys and read their reviews. Remember, you must use an attorney that practices law in the county you live in with your spouse. Do not go into this blindly. Find several that could be a possibility and call them. Ask for their hourly rate, their retainer fee and if they have payment options available. A retainer fee is an amount you will have to pay upfront, before the attorney will do any work for you. That money will be held in trust and used until it runs out. And most likely, it is going to run out. Start saving money now.
So, you have narrowed it down to a few candidates, and now it is time to personally visit with the attorney, also called a consultation. You will have to pay for this consultation, so write out all important questions and concerns you have and bring that list with you to the consultation. Attorneys are famous for lavishing you with small talk, which makes the meeting longer…which leads to a higher bill. Keep it concise. Observe the attorney. Do you get a good feeling about him or her? Does the attorney seem concerned for you, or are they constantly checking their phone or checking their makeup? Be weary of the attorney who has grandiose ideas and throws out huge settlement ideas he or she is going to get for you. That is not sincere; that is a salesman. You want sane, sincere and serenity.
Attorneys see this everyday. They are swamped with people all over town trying to divorce and settle custody disputes. A lot of them see us as just another divorce case for their law practice. What happens during a divorce and its’ results, can have a serious adverse affect on your life for many years to come. Finding the right attorney is so important. Try your best to gauge the attorney and their sincerity. If you get an uneasy feeling about the attorney, pay the consult fee and leave. I have personally had four different attorneys in my home town, and only one actually came through for me and brought me justice. I just had a good feeling about her. Our first instincts are usually correct. There are so many attorneys out there and it can be difficult to choose one. If you can afford it, I would strongly advise getting the attorney who may cost a little more (if you get a good vibe from them), especially if children are involved. These attorneys are more expensive for a reason. Do not take this lightly. Do not settle until you feel good about your choice. This is your life. Make sure you find an attorney you feel is worthy of defending what is most precious to you.